Friends, kinksters, perverts. I have some tragic news from outside the doors of the club and in the real world. Earlier this year, Ramona passed away. Those who knew her well knew she was battling advanced breast cancer, a battle she fought bravely, but even with her strong will and spirit, the terrible illness finally overcame her.
This post will serve as an obituary of sorts, and also sharing some of her wishes and dreams for this site and the BC and Bondage community at large.
Ramona’s (real) life
Ramona was born into a normal middle class family, the only child, and she had a natural aptitude for the humanities. She studied history at university obtaining a bachelor degree. Many of our most stimulating conversations were regarding this shared passion. Her interests included The Roman Empire, mostly the Eastern Roman Empire and its relation to proto-Romanian and Bulgarian peoples. She had extensive knowledge of ‘deeper’ history such as the origins of The Sumerian empire and writing itself, as well as the origins of Christianity and an excellent command of more esoteric subjects such as Brâncuși’s alchemical works. This is something of a passion of mine and we were happy to share these intimate moments outside of scenes.
After university, she became self employed in the music scene, many will know her love of heavy metal. Fewer will know she worked with one of her favorite bands (I leave the reader to know which one) and organized tours in Europe for them. This was something of a passion for her and she looks back at that time most fondly. It was around her university days when she started building the scene in her country, working with other perverts and kinksters to set up the first groups for play parties. The friends she met at that time lasted her whole life and certainly molded her into ho she was. Around that time, she also begun to realize she was a lesbian, at that time her society was not very accommodating to those with alternative lifestyles, this was another way she blazed her trail. Although she was only romantically attracted to women, at play parties she was often topped by both sexes which led to intense scenes she would still shiver and moan at even until the end.
Having established a vibrant scene in her country and participated in her passions, she never quite found love. Her lovers never truly understood the desires of a submissive and she got stuck in some painful dead end romances which left her deeply saddened and resisting the idea of romantic love. This is how I met her, slightly jaded and trying not to connect with anyone. The greatest gift we gave each other is the understanding that it is ok to be a sub. It is ok to be a lesbian and a masochist, you can and do still deserve to be loved and respected, together we built something beautiful from our shared passions. She fulfilled her role as a submissive beautifully, she had a singular elegance and wit that made topping her and guiding so so thrilling. Her final wish, which aligns with mine is that others will live the lives they want to live, be what they want to be and be free to explore their passions as they ride the bark of this life over the rough seas of passion. Whether it is exploring sex and kink from behind the veil of anonymity or venturing to a local munch, Ramona always wanted what is best for the community and the fellow practitioners .
In that spirit, this site remains open. Bondage club remains open. The helpline remains open. We will continue the work she started by fulfilling our bondage dreams and going one step further than she could – by living our dreams whilst being kind, witty, fun and of course deeply perverted.
Next Steps
To continue Ramona’s legacy I with the assistance of the community will
- Keep this site open as long as I can, it was her passion project and will serve as a memorial of sorts to a wonderful sub, a great person, and wonderful woman.
- Accepting More content! Please send your content for review to the helpline or to jd@bondage-dreams.com
- Keeping the CIA plugin maintained as before so the community can explore their kinks slightly more safely than in vanilla BC.
- If you would like to leave a comment or wish on this page, please mail one to me at jd@bondage-dreams.com and I will add it for you.
I hope you will join me in honoring Ramona’s legacy by being as kinky as you can be, learning to love and accept yourself, explore your passions and never give up. Ramona was true to herself to the end, it is a beautiful legacy to leave.