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Dominance is a dance. A tantalizing interplay between desire, power, and trust. At its core, it’s about fulfilling not only your desires but also those of your submissive partner(s). Like any good dance, successful domination is an art form requiring finesse, creativity, cunning, and meticulous attention to detail. The scene you craft could unfold in myriad ways: from the playful tickling or pet play to the exhilarating intensity of brutal sadism. [Read More]

Kink is inherently paradoxical, intertwined with apparent contradictions. Within it these dualities, contradictions, and paradoxs are not trivial curiosities, they form the very foundation of our games. The experience of power exchange, the delicate balance in dancing, or tip-toeing between pleasure and pain, and the complexities in the experience of desire reflect an continuous negotiation between seemingly incompatible states of being. My article will explore how these paradoxes, contraditions and question marks define and enrich the dynamics of masochism, dominance, and the intricate problem of desire itself. [Read More]

A scene is kind of like a sexual script. If you are a westerner, porn, film and general media give a generic sexual script for a boy girl encounter. You’ve seen it a thousand times. BJ, Sex, finish when the boy finishes. The problem with this script is, it’s pretty generic, doesn’t really put any emphasis on excitement or pleasure and just generally isn’t very kinky. You can read more about sexual scripts in this great blog post from obedience: Obedience Blog. [Read More]